Overseas Asian Dating Scams to Avoid

Many western men find themselves the victims of fraud and scams from Asian women abroad. Here are some…

Misrepresentation can start with pictures. You may start your search for an Asian woman by enrolling in one of the numerous dating sites. Once you have established a contact, you will then commonly switch your communication to chatting on Yahoo Messenger. Here is where your Asian girl will send you pictures via file transfer. Be prepared to see many beautiful photos that will excite you. But…the chances are, they will not be pictures of the real girl. 75% to 80% of Asian girls you chat with on Yahoo Messenger will send you fake pictures of pretty models. It can be humorous when two or more girls send you the same pictures.

Some girls are even more daring. They may actually claim to be a well-known model or actress, sending you “candid” pictures which they have found on the web. They don’t seem to care about lawsuits for misrepresentation. They do it anyway.

To determine what your foreign Asian girl really looks like, you will want and need to see her on webcam. Occasionally – but only occasionally – a girl may show herself on cam to you without asking for money. When you find such a girl, treasure her, for she is honest, and the rare exception. Most girls will ask you to send them money to rent a cam. But, while it generally costs no more than $5 US to rent a webcam at an Internet café, most girls will ask for considerably more – often $35 or $40 US. They may say they need extra money for food or medicine.

Be prepared for the fact that many – if not a majority – of girls you wire money to for webcam rental will grab your money and disappear. Other girls will ask that you buy them their own webcam so they can chat privately, exclusively, and frequently with you alone. Hah!

There is also the “private room” scam. Many girls will offer to show you their bodies naked in an Internet café private room. Obviously this costs more. And while it is true that many girls will indeed offer you cyber sex from a private room, the changes are greater that you will forever part with your “private room” money sent.

Then there is the popular travel scam. It is common, for example, for a filipina to tell you she is a nurse on her way to the U.S. or Canada to work in a hospital. She will show pictures in a nurse’s uniform. And will even send you photos of her nurse’s certificate and visa – all forged. Her scam will be to tell you she is stuck in transit in Hong Kong or Tokyo or in Los Angeles and desperately needs money for unexpected airport terminal fees or for overnight hotel stay. She will send you a detailed itinerary showing the airlines and times – all of which she has simply lifted from the airline’s website. It’s all BS and is easily discovered by asking tricky questions about the airport or hotel where she is. She will always make at least one stupid mistake.

It is easy to be tempted by seeming heartfelt love messages and beautiful photos.

Just let caution and skepticism be your guide.



  1. tambok17 Said:

    P.E.S. Pity Evoking Scams by Asian Girls Online

    A lot of American and other Western guys are taken in by Asian girl- scammers online and lose thousands of dollars a day. How do the scammers operate? It is quite simple- a beautiful girl on Friendster.com or on other sites sends you a love note (or you send one to her) and then an online relationship develops. The girl confesses her friendly feelings for you, and then, presents her sad story to you. She had to quit school because she had no money for tuition. If you could only help her and put her through school, or just pay some $300 for this semester and help her buy books and uniforms, she would be eternally grateful to you and be your girlfriend/wife/lover. This is of course seen as an excellent opportunity by some lonely guy to become a knight in shining armour and save the girls’ future while getting a gorgeous overseas lover in the process. So, guys send the money.
    Such scammers know that a Western guy will be far more likely to pay for tuition than to help with other things because they know we value education and self reliance. Once the “tuition” is sent, it is promptly spent on her immediate family needs, good food, new cell phones, and to pay the family’s debts. The swindler is often doing this to several guys at the same time while pretending to go to school to complete her studies.
    Then, she would tell the guy that there was a sickness in the family and she had to spend her tuition on ambulance and hospital bills for her mother who had suddenly collapsed on the floor and is now in an intensive care unit. Now she needs the tuition payment once more. You will be surprised how many guys will be impressed by the story and send money yet again. If she is ever asked to present a copy of the hospital bill, she, of course, will not be able to do that – sorry, it’s been lost- and your communication will come to a halt.
    Some of the biggest scammers are web cam “models” who chat for money and provide “special shows” to foreign customers online. These will often complain about how much they hate their “jobs” (which are illegal in their country, anyway) and how much they would love to go back home to their province. If someone could only help them with the bus/boat ticket (the fare will be greatly exaggerated) and also buy a cell phone so that they could call home, buy how happy they would be. Guys help. How can they not save a beautiful young lady from the life of vice with some $200 or less? The lady pockets the money and continues “working the cams” without going home at all. All she has to do now is to wait for another simpleton, tell him the same sob story about how much she wants to go home and just keep making her money by ripping yet another sucker off. How simple and what ingenuity! In the West, scammers prey on people’s greed; in the East, they prey on people’s pity and compassion. The latter hurts much more, in my opinion. We were taught not to be greedy, but we were never taught not to be kind.
    Some rip off artists ask for money to cover expenses related to finding a job. In their country, they need police clearances, medical clearances, photographs and neighbourhood references in order to be able to apply for jobs. So, they ask you for money to get those. Again, they know that while a Western man will not be disposed to help their families directly or buy luxuries for them, many guys will send money if the ladies need it to get on their own two feet. There is no job, though, and no expenses to be met, as the lady is not even planning to find one. She will go shopping for a new dress or buy something good for her family. She has hit the jackpot, and it is you.
    Other scams include such despicable things as faking one’s parents’ death and asking money for the funerals, and to tide herself over the next month or so until she can “get a job”. When money is sent to cover such a “tragedy”, the whole family celebrates by taking vacations, buying meals and possibly even throwing parties.
    Sometimes, a cell phone is “ lost “or “stolen” (which is not true) – they just got tired of the model and want a better one, so they lie. They probably gave the old one to their brother, too.
    On other occasions, the girls say that they have been robbed on the way home from work and their whole salary was taken by a thief or a hoodlum. Please send money – I have no money to pay rent. But she does.
    In addition to outright scams, there are also semi-scams, and I do not know which ones are more unethical or more painful upon discovery. A semi- scam is based on exaggeration, and is also quite common. Here is how it works- some girls’ have a legitimate need- maybe, to pay a debt or, maybe, tuition or a registration fee. Well, they will overinflate the actual amount that they need to spend on those. If they need to pay 3000 pesos only, they will ask for 7000 and use the difference to buy luxuries, dresses and other such things, but more often than not, to help their enormous families. You will find quite normal people, friends and legitimate girlfriends from religious families who will not hesitate to take you for a ride that way.
    If you refuse to send money at any point, there are three commons strategies that the scammers will employ:1) They will pretend to be someone else- an uncle or an aunt and send an SMS like this: “ Hello, I am Juan, Juvelyn’s uncle. Juvelyn needs your help. She has a serious infection and is in a hospital now. She has no money to pay the bills. Please help her”. You will notice though that it is the same girl typing because of the same “handwriting” – the same abbreviations are used, the same idiosyncrasies of capitalizations and style. So easy to spot if you do not let your profound compassion to stand on the way of common sense.2) You will receive a text from her friend (if you know one) telling her that her (the friend’s) baby is sick and that she needs to go back to the province. She will even provide the number to call her (your other friend) and her voice will be faked by the first girl. Money will be requested to help the infirm child but there is one problem, though- the girl has no ID to claim the money- would you kindly send it to Oscar Gomez who is, by the way, the first girl’s uncle.3) There will be threats of suicide, of the girl going to work as a prostitute, of hunger and starvation coming in the future, homelessness and death and prison for her- anything to soften up your heart and make you part with your hard-earned money.
    Pity -Evoking Scams are, unfortunately, a common occurrence in online and offline communications with SE Asian ladies, so be extremely cautious. Do not send anything without seeing a scanned invoice first. Ask them to send you the name and number of the school she is going to so you could call and verify. Check the number on the internet if possible. Ask for receipts and police reports. But even these measures do not guarantee that they will not fake the documents.
    There are just as many legitimate ladies who need help out there, and the flim-flam girls make all such people look bad. So, in any case, ask for documents and invoices and those people who can produce them, will most probably be legit but even then, ask around and thoroughly research. You can never be free from risks when you help people that you have never met in person, but you can significantly reduce them if you are especially thorough and careful.
    Caveat Amator- Let the Lover Beware.

  2. harleyjoe78 Said:

    hello Iam new here and loved reading your thoughts on asian women . I have been on Chnlove.com for a month and wonder if you had any info on if they are a safe dating site or just another scam site ? I would be very thank full for any help you could give me before I waste any more money .

    thank you joe

    • Eng Lim Said:

      asiandate.com is also a scam website. they are formerly asianbeauties.com. i was scammed closed to 3 grand before i realized i spent that much money on these “chat credits” that they charge you by the minute. The only way to get personal contact information from these ladies, you have to spend hundreds to send them gifts and give her your personal information. However, i have been ripped off two times i tried to send gifts and turned out they are just girls who work for the company. this company is run by a shady russian company and they will never refund your money. save yourself money and time, avoid them. i learned the hard way. 😦

  3. asiandatingtips Said:

    Hi Joe,

    I have nothing against the site you mention. It’s a quality site with some quality women. Like any popular dating site scammers abound. My advice is to tread cautiously and only believe half of what you hear. Don’t be too eager to spend your money on anyone until you’re convinced she’s sincere.

    Best of luck,

  4. btired Said:

    Doh. Chnlove is a reputed SCAM Website.

    Just do an internet search for Chlove and Scam, or fraud, etc. and you will turn up plenty of first-hand experiences.

    It’s true that in very LIMITED cases, there are so-called “matches” made, but the site is run on misrepresentation and deception. Here are just 3 urls, but there are many more if you do some research:

  5. myspyshop Said:

    Hi I also had many bad problems online and in “China “.. Chnlove and cherryblossoms are a bed of deceptions and now I,m an online investigator of some what and go to nanningdatescam.blogspot.com You will love this ! Chnlove will deny its partners unethical practices….in the blog I posted about Lisa Huang age 45 and Yuxia Li age 49 (the same lady ) Also she is in cherryblossoms Goes by Lisa age : 49 buther name is Yuxia Li email liyuxia528@yahoo.cn if you know her stay away she has a profile in shyle.fm Liyuxia age :49 shehas alot of admires and friends list of men from the “Middle east ” be careful ! I sent the blog address to chnlove to prove my investigation and they wrote back 10/22/2011 saying both of the profiles in chnlove are hidden and will be shut down…Well they are still up ! the woman ahs 2 profiles in Chnlove and chnlove says they are aurthenicated and true ladis…No they are not and have been exposed in nanningdatescam.blogspot.com go there and find out . Thanks for you blog and many more shall be coming out of this china date scam and more……There is no such thing as a “Traditional Sweet Chinese lady of culture and morals”….China is changing fast I know I,ve been there twice

  6. fumc1985 Said:

    Sounds like everyone had serious problems. I would like to share a case that I knew asshole in the US as well. This is not a professional type of fraud but it was a kind bad relation habit that the white American guy Campos had and deceived many asian girls on camps in Arizona. He speaks Chinese fluently and he received scholarship to continue his studying at Arizona State University. In addition, he teaches Chinese as a TA. He always targets Asian girls on campus and everywhere he finds. Once he finds a target, he persistent to chase the girl and knock her down. He requests something to her to buy for him and of course intercourse as well. In the next, during the break, he asks a girl to take him to her home country and stay at their home free. Once he achieve this mission then he dumps her and moves to next target.
    He does this all the time. Girls do not know how he has a bad relation habits like this. If you becomes his friends in his Facebook, you would see his friends list are full of asian girls. You would be a next target and next victims. Watch out.

  7. Hey guys! I think all these happened all over the world no matter you are from western or Asia. People who are looking for LOVE please be aware of these scam and guard your heart!!! If all the victims gather in one website, I am sure we are able to find the some special. Western men being cheated, Asian girls the same.

  8. asianpromise Said:

    Wow, some really good examples of things to be wary of when searching for an Asian bride online.

    From my experience of running an Asian dating website, a lot of issues with Chinese online dating arise from the widespread use of agents in China. These agents/brokers are well known in China for their focus on money. They make their money by using people who want to get out of China or who are naive. Their customers normally speak little or no English and come from poor remote areas of China. The agencies charge enormous sums of money (roughly equivalent to two year’s salary) in return for guarantees to find a foreign husband for them. Nowadays more and more agencies in China are starting to use the Internet to find foreign husbands for their customers. They divide their service into three stages and charge their customers at each stage: finding/writing fee, meeting fee and success/marriage fee. The agencies look for dates and communicate with the dates on behalf of their customers. Some agencies don’t tell their customers the contact details of the men they are dating so that they can control the whole dating progress.

    Many foreign men who have met ladies on the Internet are blind to the truth. They pay lots of money upfront for translation of their and their lover’s letters, which are often simply answered and written directly by the agent who is also the translator! When they finally meet their lover they find she is not the one they have corresponded with over the months, and discover her knowledge of English is very poor. Because there was actually no real communication, they find therefore there is no real love. Most such relationships through agencies, sooner or later, fail.

    To reduce the chances of being tricked, I suggest you use websites in which the Chinese ladies come to the site themselves directly and are able to communicate directly with men, use webcams so you know who you are speaking to and test the ladies attitude to improving her English without need for translators.

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