Archive for Meeting

Juggling Several Girls At Once

{ May 21, 2008 @ 7:06 pm } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , , } · { Leave a Comment }

When visiting Asian countries for the first time, you will be startled by the sheer numbers of very pretty, if not beautiful, girls smiling invitingly at you. Selecting will be very hard. And when you think you have found the one ideal treasure of your choice, you’ll quickly see a better one around the corner. This is why most Americans find themselves dating many girls.

One vexing inconvenience is that Asian girls can be very easy to attract but much harder to get rid of. They can fall in love very quickly and, once in bed with you, may assume they are your “one and only.” This leads to embarrassing encounters. It is very common for a girl to show up unannounced at your hotel door early in the morning just as you are getting out of bed with someone else.

There are several ways to handle this.

One way is to have another room at a second nearby hotel and alternate your rendezvous. Another is to occasionally change your room at your main hotel and instruct the desk and switchboard operator to reveal your room number to no one.

Some men, when they have found a girl they are serious about but cannot stop the itch for another, will limit their choices to one per city. This involves the cost and nuisance of hopping from island to island but it effectively thwarts trouble.

Since, by the way, there are over 7,000 Philippine islands with umpteen more cities, your opportunities are limitless.

A final key way to juggle different girls is to tell each one very directly that you are “collecting” and will then be “selecting.” If you are very clear and firm about your goal to meet “just a few” girls and will then decide upon your one heart mate, you will find most will accept this explanation. They know intuitively that you will be seeing other girls. If you tell them upfront, while assuring them that they are in the running, they may not like it but will accept it and will appreciate your honesty in saying what most men don’t.

The Love-Making Customs of Asian Girls

{ May 14, 2008 @ 5:33 pm } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , } · { Comments (1) }

The American man may categorize US women as a tease, a ball-breaker, or a gold-digger. Some are sexually aggressive. Others may play hard to get. Too often they complain they are “too tired” or “not in the mood.” Problem is, you never know which you are going to get.

The Asian girl is different. She is much more consistent in her approach to lovemaking. Her culture breeds her to admire, support, love her man, and always be there for him. No matter what her mood or spirits, she is ready to “take care of” her lover. She may gently and demurely initiate sex. But more often she will simply readily and happily acquiesce to her man’s move.

I have had the experience of staying with a girl in my hotel and every time we returned from outside, she would close and latch the room door and automatically take off her clothes as naturally as she breathed. In short, she always wants to please you.

In fact, it is not uncommon for an Asian woman, after making love with you, to suggest you take a nap while she washes your underwear and socks, and squeezes toothpaste from your tube onto your toothbrush and setting it by the sink awaiting your pleasure. Such caring attention is unknown to the western woman. It is an almost mind-blowing experience for the unaccustomed western man.

Of all the Asians, I find the Chinese the oddest in making love. Many do not like to kiss. I’m not sure whether it is inherited as part of their culture, or whether it is based on their insistent demand for cleanliness. But it can be unsettling and frustrating for the man who wants to really make love rather than just having quick sex.

In general, you will experience a whole new world of lovemaking joy and fulfillment when you start dating Asian women.

How To Avoid Trouble in Asia

{ May 9, 2008 @ 7:06 pm } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , } · { Leave a Comment }

 It is always wise to remember, “In Rome do what the Romans do.” Before visiting any Asian country it is imperative that you read about the government and the customs there. For instance, in Singapore the simple act of spitting in public can get you arrested. Shoplifting and petty burglary is common in certain Asian countries, which is one reason you often see so many security guards in the malls, by stores and outside hotels. The point is not that you would not commit such crimes yourself, but that eagle-eyed security guards are constantly on the lookout.

For the western man wanting to meet girls, there is one over-riding caveat. Asian girls quickly fall in love and become easily jealous. If you hurt her and/or show disrespect, she always has “cousins” ready to come to her aid. Also, it is a major risk to “hit on” a girl known to have a boyfriend. Westerners doing this have found themselves bloodied in the gutter. Finally, if you decide to date several girls at once, it can be smart to use two different hotels. Once you have bedded an Asian girl, she will often show up unannounced at your hotel room door just when you have another girl in bed.

Common sense tells you to be careful where you go out by yourself at night. Westerners can be the target both of muggers and pimps eager to lead you to a so-called private address where you will find no girl, or worse, robbers waiting to relieve you of your money.

When venturing out at night it is best to ask the hotel concierge for the safest destination. They will generally tell you exactly where and where not to go.

When drawing money from ATMs, do so in daylight where there are crowds around and do not show your money. Quickly tuck it in your pocket and then transfer it to your wallet later when you are alone.

It is also both wise and helpful to develop a friendship with at least one or two reliable individuals you can call if and when you encounter any problems. Carry their phone numbers with you at all times.

Using common sense will generally keep you out of trouble But no matter which Asian country you visit, you would do well to keep your eyes and ears always alert.

Where to Live “Like a King” On $1,000 a Month

{ May 8, 2008 @ 6:11 am } · { Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , , } · { Comments (1) }

Forget Japan where dinner for two can cost you $200. And forget major cities like Beijing or Shanghai in China…or Singapore or Malaysia. Your best bets for living cheaply would be Thailand, Indonesia, Vietman, and the Philippines. If it is important to be among people who speak English, your best bet is the Philippines. This writer has found Cebu City on the island of Cebu to be the most congenial. Manila is crowded, suffers from intolerable air pollution, and can be costlier than other locales in the Philippines. Cebu is the second largest city in that nation and offers all the communication benefits a westerner wants such as ready Internet access, phone, fax, abundant ATMs and great shopping. In a mall such as Ayala you will find numerous upscale luxury stores for the finest in clothing and jewelry.

An American friend of mine rents a six-bedroom house for $380 US a month. He has two live-in maids and a live-in cook costing him about $45 US each per month. In fact, it was his website message that he “lives like a king” on $1,000 a month that drew me to Cebu for the first time. I have returned 4 times since and am thinking of living there part-time.

Hotels can range from $40 to $200 a day, depending on your need for luxury. I stay at the Cebu Midtown Hotel for $45 a day and I am one who requires comfort. The rooms are clean, the restaurant fine. Moreover, the hotel is centrally located and right next to Robinson’s Mall where you will find not just diverse shopping but plenty of girls to return smiles with. $2 US will take you by taxi to just about anywhere in the city, and a decent meal for two can be enjoyed for $10 or less. Flights are frequently available to other cities from Cebu, and Cebu itself is reached by air from Manila. Houses, condos and apartments are plentiful for rent or purchase.

Remember, too, that there are over 7,000 islands in the Philippines. If you live on a tight budget, you can live elsewhere than Cebu on well under $1,000 a month.

Age: Does it Matter Overseas?

{ May 4, 2008 @ 4:21 am } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , , , } · { Leave a Comment }

This depends on the country. These articles cover Asia only. So there will be no discussion of Europe or South America. But across the Pacific, there are certain differences by nation. In Japan, Korea, and Singapore few young women in their 20s or 30s will respond to western men twenty or thirty years older. A woman of 25 is likely to set her maximum acceptable age for a man at 40, perhaps 45. She is apt to be more comfortable with a man within no more than ten years of her age.

It is far different in Thailand, China, and the Philippines.

In these countries, it is not uncommon for a woman in her twenties to accept a man in his sixties. It is less common in China, more so in Thailand and the Philippines. This writer at the age of 65 experienced the love of a gorgeous young girl of 22 in Shanghai. Without question she would have married me. I returned to Shanghai to see her a second time and was impressed that she would not allow me to spend money on her. She just wanted to be with me. Though I left and decided not to pursue Yan Ping further, I have thought about her often since and wondered “what it?”

One reason girls of Thailand and the Philippines respond to older men is that they seek security. They live in poverty and want to be taken care of. They also appreciate a man who will help support their family – not with thousands of dollars, but with food and perhaps help with the rent. But in return for that security, it is part of their cultural instinct and training to really take care of their man. When you visit Thailand, and especially the Philippines, it is common to see western men in their 60s and 70s accompanied by young women of 22 to 25 or so.

When you first read the profiles of Thai and filipina girls on Internet dating sites, you will be surprised to see how many of them say that age is not important. They will say that “heart” is the most important quality they seek in a man.

Asian Girls in the U.S. vs Abroad

{ April 29, 2008 @ 7:31 pm } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , } · { Leave a Comment }

The American men who best understand this comparison are those who have found their Asian mates abroad and then brought them back to the U.S. to live. The irony is that the reason American men go to Asia is to escape feminists who push, badger and nag…who spend more time doing their make-up and shopping than caring for their man…who demand and command rather than nurturing and supporting.

Contrary to the often aggressive, confrontational, competitive nature of many American females, Asian women are sweet, giving, gentle, and caring. Rather than testing, challenging and controlling their man, their culture teaches them to support, care for, and pamper him. They dedicate their lives to their man.

All of this can indeed be true – while they are in Asia. But things can change when your sweet, gentle Asian sweetie comes to the States. After just a few months

she can become westernized and become the very difficult American woman you went to Asia to avoid. There are cases of American men marrying a filipina, bringing her to the States and then soon returning to the Philippines to live, to recapture the loving, easy-to-be-with attitude their Asian woman lost in the U.S.

There is another significant difference between Asian girls in the U.S. and in countries like China, Thailand, and the Philippines. If you are 40 plus you will find few U.S. based Asian girls who respond to older men. They are more likely to set a maximum age gap of 10 years. It is totally different in China, Thailand and the Philippines. Here it is common for young girls of 22 to 25 there to date and marry men in their 50s, 60s, and 70s. This writer has an American friend of 71 in Cebu who has been married for 5 years to a filipina of 26. He, for one, would never think of returning to the States.

Overseas Asian Dating Scams to Avoid

{ April 29, 2008 @ 6:34 am } · { Girls I have known, Hoaxes and scams, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , } · { Comments (4) }

Many western men find themselves the victims of fraud and scams from Asian women abroad. Here are some…

Misrepresentation can start with pictures. You may start your search for an Asian woman by enrolling in one of the numerous dating sites. Once you have established a contact, you will then commonly switch your communication to chatting on Yahoo Messenger. Here is where your Asian girl will send you pictures via file transfer. Be prepared to see many beautiful photos that will excite you. But…the chances are, they will not be pictures of the real girl. 75% to 80% of Asian girls you chat with on Yahoo Messenger will send you fake pictures of pretty models. It can be humorous when two or more girls send you the same pictures.

Some girls are even more daring. They may actually claim to be a well-known model or actress, sending you “candid” pictures which they have found on the web. They don’t seem to care about lawsuits for misrepresentation. They do it anyway.

To determine what your foreign Asian girl really looks like, you will want and need to see her on webcam. Occasionally – but only occasionally – a girl may show herself on cam to you without asking for money. When you find such a girl, treasure her, for she is honest, and the rare exception. Most girls will ask you to send them money to rent a cam. But, while it generally costs no more than $5 US to rent a webcam at an Internet café, most girls will ask for considerably more – often $35 or $40 US. They may say they need extra money for food or medicine.

Be prepared for the fact that many – if not a majority – of girls you wire money to for webcam rental will grab your money and disappear. Other girls will ask that you buy them their own webcam so they can chat privately, exclusively, and frequently with you alone. Hah!

There is also the “private room” scam. Many girls will offer to show you their bodies naked in an Internet café private room. Obviously this costs more. And while it is true that many girls will indeed offer you cyber sex from a private room, the changes are greater that you will forever part with your “private room” money sent.

Then there is the popular travel scam. It is common, for example, for a filipina to tell you she is a nurse on her way to the U.S. or Canada to work in a hospital. She will show pictures in a nurse’s uniform. And will even send you photos of her nurse’s certificate and visa – all forged. Her scam will be to tell you she is stuck in transit in Hong Kong or Tokyo or in Los Angeles and desperately needs money for unexpected airport terminal fees or for overnight hotel stay. She will send you a detailed itinerary showing the airlines and times – all of which she has simply lifted from the airline’s website. It’s all BS and is easily discovered by asking tricky questions about the airport or hotel where she is. She will always make at least one stupid mistake.

It is easy to be tempted by seeming heartfelt love messages and beautiful photos.

Just let caution and skepticism be your guide.

Which Asian Women Are the Best Lovers

{ April 26, 2008 @ 2:54 pm } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , , , , } · { Leave a Comment }

Men who have dated Asian women can debate this subject for hours on end. For some, the Chinese woman is the best lover. For others, the Korean. For still others, the Filipina. Here are some of the arguments, based on talks with an admittedly small number of experienced western men…

Korean women score very high on the best-lover scale. Their high cheek-boned facial beauty and sensual full-breasted bodies positively exude sex. And that image translates into action in the bedroom. They are lustful and enjoy the pure pleasure of animal sex.

The Japanese woman is considered more passive. She is more gentle and loving. She will often make herself available to you quietly – without reluctance but also without excitement. She makes you feel that she is giving herself to you rather than actively participating. This can disappoint the virile man with a strong sex drive.

The Chinese woman presents an interesting dilemma. She can be extraordinarily beautiful with matchless natural smooth skin that needs no make-up. However, she can disappoint men who prefer full breasts. Chinese women are commonly flat-chested. But there is another curiosity. Many Chinese women don’t like to kiss. It is either a cultural tradition or a feeling that it is somehow not sanitary to mix salivas. In any case, it is frustrating for the man who enjoys lovemaking foreplay.

The Thai woman combines a love for raw sex with the desire to make love. She can be very cute, if not exotically beautiful. She gives to her man and while expecting integrity and commitment, she is not as clingy as women from Japan and China can be. Thai girls also often start their sex live at an early age. While it is a discomforting thought, some western men travel to Bangkok specifically to have sex with young girls. Men who visit Thailand must be wary of STDs. AIDS is quite common, if not rampant.

For some men, Filipinas are the best lovers. There are three key reasons. One, the Filipina is more full-breasted than the Chinese and simply sexier. Two, the Filipinas seem to have a tradition of free love. The Filipina woman requires very little coaxing to join you in bed. It is as natural to them as brushing their teeth. And on the subject of cleanliness, the Filipina is fastidious about her hygiene. She will always want to take a long shower before making love. Finally, she offers a huge benefit to older men. Age difference means nothing to the Filipina woman. A young woman of 22 thinks nothing of taking a 65-year-old man as her lover.

This writer has intimate experience with women of Japan, Korea, Thailand, China, and the Philippines. I cannot compare women from Vietnam, Malaysia, or Indonesia. That is for you to explore and discover.

The Pros and Cons of Asian Women

{ April 25, 2008 @ 6:12 am } · { Girls I have known, Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , } · { Comments (1) }

For many Western men, Asian women are the most desirable mates in the world. Such men compare the often aggressive, confrontational, competitive nature of today’s American females with the sweet, giving, gentle, and caring attitude of women from Asia. Other men cite certain red flags that can prevent a fully satisfying relationship. This article will review some of the pros and cons of dating and/or marrying an Asian woman.

Here are some of the positive reasons for choosing an Asian woman.

In general, she is gentle, loyal, supportive, and dedicated to her man. What is important to an Asian woman is who her man is, not what he does or how much money he makes. She will stand behind him in times of trouble and stress, and rejoice in his periods of success. She always thinks of him first.

Asian women also make ideal money managers in the home. They have a good head for finance and know how to help their man conserve his income. While many western women like to spend money, the Asian woman helps her man to use it wisely and save. And with all their wisdom and intelligence, they remain wonderfully easy to be with. They rarely complain, are gentle and constructive with their criticism, and often display a delightful sense of humor.

On top of all that, Asian woman can be breathtakingly beautiful in a totally natural way, with flawless skin and no need for make-up. Moreover, they retain their youthful beauty and shape well into middle age and beyond. And, not to be overlooked, the Asian woman is usually a passionate and steadfast lover.

Finally, mature men appreciate that for many Asian women, age difference is

often not an issue. Most Asian women will say that “heart” is the quality they treasure most and age is not important. It is not unusual for an Asian woman to date or marry a man 20 or 30 years her senior. This is a major benefit for middle-aged men or seniors who prefer a much younger woman.

The above are reasons why the divorce rate for Asian-American marriages is so low compared to the population as a whole.

There are indeed some negatives, but for most men they are relatively minor.

Many Asian women have limited facility with English. This requires patience while they learn your language. They can also be jealous. They are less forgiving if a man strays and breaks the bond of trust. They are also very family bonded. They may want you to help their family still living in very modest circumstances in the homeland. Another trait is their tendency to seem secretive. On the one hand, many Asian women may be reluctant to provide details about their background or prior relationship experiences. On the other hand, their seeming secrecy can simply be shyness. They seem sometimes to live in their inner world of thought.

A final point can be major. Many American men prefer to limit their association with Asian women abroad. Some find that when they bring their gentle, sweet Asian woman back to live in the States, she soon can become westernized and adopt the more demanding, independent nature of the American “feminine lib.”

It is true that there are individual differences among the various nationalities: Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Indonesian, Thai, Malaysian, Vietnamese, Filipino. But the differences are relatively subtle.

WHY WESTERN MEN MOVE TO ASIA

{ April 22, 2008 @ 2:13 am } · { Meeting, Thoughts }
{ Tags: , , , } · { Leave a Comment }

Growing numbers of western men – particularly Americans – are moving to Asian countries. There are four main reasons: Lower cost, better lifestyle, escape, and women. The countries most often chosen are Thailand, China, and the Philippines. In some Asian locales it is possible to “live like a king” on $1000 US a month. This is especially true in Thailand and the Philippines. Here you can rent a 4-bedroom house for under $500 US a month, hire a maid and cook for about $45 – $50 US each a month, plus a chauffeur, if you choose, for just a bit more. Full restaurant meals can be enjoyed for $8 to $12 US. Taxis in these two countries rarely cost more than $2 US for trips around town. And meanwhile, you have access to all modern communications including phone, fax, cable TV and Internet hook-up.

China is more costly. But some western men choose Shanghai or Beijing for what they perceive to be business opportunities in the growing Chinese economy. However, many western businessmen are finding it difficult if not impossible to make money in China. Moreover, English is not that commonly spoken. On balance, both Thailand and the Philippines offer a more congenial and more affordable lifestyle. The disadvantage of Thailand is the scarcity of Thais who speak English outside Bangkok. And Bangkok itself is far more expensive than life in the provinces. The Philippines offers the convenience of commonly spoken English. For lower cost of living, better lifestyle including all the servants you desire, and English communications, it is hard to beat the Philippines.

Some American men move to Asian countries to escape problems in the U.S. Such problems may be legal or credit-related. It can be hard for creditors and attorneys to even find, let alone file suit against, western men living, for instance, in the Philippines – especially given that there are over 7000 islands in the Philippines to search in. Some Americans move to Asia to escape the encroaching invasion of privacy in the U.S. as well as the uncertainties of the volatile U.S. economy.

Finally, many western men settle in Asian countries for the women. Asian women are among the most beautiful in the world, they are loving and easy to be with, they often care not at all about the age of their western boyfriend, and the cost of maintaining Asian women is but a fraction of the cost of western wives and girlfriends. Many western men who have moved to Asia and found their younger dream Asian beauty would never consider returning to their original homeland.

« Previous entries